Moments of Musing

This month, start living your best life

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How is Halloween over and November already here? I feel like I blinked and life fast forwarded itself. 

Ah, life. 

This month, no matter the ups and downs and all arounds–live it. Live every experience fully and freely. Don’t let the negatives creep in and overtake the positives. Don’t “woe is me” your days away. 

Let’s take my life, for example. I’ve had people call it a “fairytale” and while it’s semi-flattering, it’s also a little offensive when expressed a certain way. Yes, I’m aware I have an amazing husband and a beautiful baby boy. I am blessed BEYOND belief and I’m so in love with both of them. I would not do anything differently. 

But my life is not picture perfect. My marriage is strong but there are days when my husband and I strongly disagree. My son is the best thing to ever happen to me but his newborn days were (mostly) sleepless, difficult and yet overwhelmingly happy. Work is tough but I’m lucky to have a job I enjoy and the understanding coworkers I do. 

It’s all about perspective. Even if you don’t like this season in life, make the most of it. Don’t discount your own successes or life experiences because someone else’s seem better. If I did that, I could go on and on about whether we have enough–money, space, time, so on and so forth.  

And still, even though my life is far from perfect, I have to pinch myself because none of the imperfections matter when the loves of my life look at me. We’re doing the best we can and I think we’re kicking butt at it. We’re just living the best life we can right now. 

You deserve to do the same. 

Autumn’s Darkness

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We’re often so excited for fall that we forget the clocks jump forward. The days are shorter. The nights are longer. The sun goes down earlier. The dark arrives sooner. With it, autumn brings increased darkness.  
The darkness creeps in slowly at first. It’s barely recognizable and then it seems like all of a sudden, the dark hours arrive sooner and sooner. It’s hard to remember what it’s like to get out of work during daylight, to wake up during daylight, to arrive home during daylight. All of that suddenly happens in the dark. 
But while the darkness has certainly crept in, we mustn’t forget that light shines brightest in the dark. It’s most visible there. It stands out more. You know, the light never really goes away. 

It might be harder to find or take longer to get to or be more work than you want to put in, but the light is always there–if you just look for it. 


Stress-free: the way to be (Part 2)

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This is a continuation of the post Stress-free: the way to be. Read Part 1 here.

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My most mundane stress trigger is probably household upkeep. The laundry piles up. The garbage has to be taken out. The bathroom has to be cleaned. These are the things that bother me most in our household. Again, however, they’re not unique to our household or unmanageable. I just know it’ll only be more of a pain once the baby arrives and all I want to do is cuddle him. So I’m determined to make a schedule with Mr. L so our tasks can be accomplished more consistently. 

The hunt for housing has been a real nightmare. In the very beginning of house hunting, I was feeling optimistic. Then, we went to see houses and that optimism plummeted. When we visited a house I really liked, Tim did not like it. And it just wasn’t the right house for us. So we are back at square one: to buy or rent. Time is ticking…quickly. Stay tuned to find out what we ultimately decide.


In addition to the little things to make each trigger less stressful, I think keeping everything in perspective is most important. There will always be stress in life. But life is too beautiful to worry away. And as Mr. L always says: we will figure it out because we always do. As long as we’re on the same team, everything will be a-okay. 

Have a great stress-free weekend everyone! Mr. L and I are looking forward to letting loose and celebrating at a wedding today and tomorrow.


Stress-free: the way to be (Part 1)

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Happy almost weekend! The weather has been in the 70s and I couldn’t be happier about that. 

NYC is consistently at the top of “America’s Most Stressful Cities” lists.


Before the carefree weekend arrives, I’m getting serious on here. Recently, I had a self-care session. I was asked what it is that I’d like to discuss with regard to managing or taking better care. My easy answer: stress. 


I feel like it either creeps in slowly or occurs all at once. During pregnancy, my stress has been slightly heightened because preparing for life with a baby is the biggest (and BEST!) adjustment I’ve ever had to make. 

There are financial concerns. I don’t think I’m alone in this worry. In fact, I know I’m not because my friends and I will speak about our respective financial concerns. But that doesn’t make it any easier. Trying to budget for bills, housing, a new baby, leisure activities (AKA traveling) and save is tough. I’m determined to look at our budget as an accomplishment. To give ourselves credit when we see what are savings and retirement have amounted to. And to know that we still have many years ahead of us to build upon that growth. 

Then, there are my pregnancy worries: This was my main area of stress for a good part of the past six months. Like I said in my previous post, I was very nervous in the beginning but the latest scare happened recently when I failed the one-hour glucose blood test that screens for gestational diabetes. Thankfully, I PASSED the three-hour one! As time has gone on, I’ve been reassured by my doctor, sonogram techs and medical tests.  That has made the stress subside a whole lot. It’s almost nonexistent at this stage in pregnancy, which is a very welcomed relief. 

Speaking of relief, this post is getting too long and needs a break. I’ll be back tomorrow with Part 2.

When You’re in a Slump

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I’m not sure if it was the gloomy weather outside, or just an off day, but recently I was feeling unfulfilled. I found myself feeling like I was in a slump, questioning my professional life choices. It was not the first time and it surely will not be the last. While I don’t like feeling that way, I do think it’s quite normal. 
I think it’s very important to think about your situation and why you’re feeling that way. You don’t want to find yourself feeling this way for longer than what is necessary and/or healthy. 

These are the methods I use to cope when I find myself in a “slump”: 

Ask yourself what you think got you to feeling this way. It can be a multitude of reasons: overanalyzing, the weather, hunger, sleepiness, boredom, complacency, a bad day at work, lack of self care, etc. 

Find a temporary way to achieve satisfaction/ happiness. It can be listening to music, working out, or momentarily stepping away from the situation. Whatever makes you happy–that’s not destructive– would be good to do. 

Think of solutions to not feel like this again (anytime soon, anyway). This can mean anything from a move, to a change of job, a different group of friends, a break-up, or a vacation. 

Keep everything in perspective. A few bad minutes or one bad day will not last forever. It’s a bad moment/ hour/ day, not a bad life. 


*** I am not a therapist or doctor nor do I claim to be. This post is comprised of my individual opinions, and not meant to convey professional medical or mental health advice. This post is not about depression or suicidual thoughts. If you are feeling depressed or suicidal please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1 (800) 273-8255.***